why do i need disasters

the only time most of us ever learn anyting is when we get hit over the back of the head .. why? b'koss it's not easier to change . so we keep keep doing what we're doing until we hit a brick wall ..dalam perhubungan for example , : when we usually tell  each other how much we care ? when our relationship is falling down , right ??when the familly is falling apart , right ??kegagalan is hurts and thats when we get educated.in retrospect, we usually notice " DISASTERS" were turning points ..macamm aku la kiter xakan b'ubah kalau kite xade buat silap .. macam akuu baru2 niew aku t'hilangkan duit mak aku about 1000.00 hehe ;) tapi tu la kalau bende tu xjadi aku xakan belajar dp kesilapan tu , since that aku jadi seorg yang lebih perihatin terhadap sesuatu , chewah ...! so is life series of painfull disasters ? not necessarily ..the universe is always nudging us with gentle signals,it nudges us with a slegehammer .. ,<3